As Autumn settles in it’s time to treat yourself with compassion. Be conscious this is the season to be gentle, and wrap yourself with TLC. If you are someone who is constantly there for everyone else, now is the time to turn that caring inwards and say ‘no’ to others. It is only by first caring for your own needs that you can adequately care for those around you.
Although we know that self care is so important it can be difficult to know how to start. Self care begins with self love. Self love has nothing to do with being selfish. Rather, it’s about attending to your needs not about putting yourself before others. It is a vital step on the pathway to Soul Empowered Wellness.
If you wish to grow in consciousness and walk a path of integrity and authentic power, one of the most fundamental steps is to attend to your self-care. It all begins with self-love, the simple act of honouring yourself with kindness and respect. Practicing self care requires you tune into your body, your emotions, your mind and your soul and attend to what it is you really need and desire.
Silence Your Inner Critic
In order to care for ourselves we must first recognise and banish the inner critic. That inner ‘mean girl’, ‘critic’, ‘judge’, ‘saboteur’ or whatever you call it, (I call mine ‘The Committee’) serves us at certain times in our life. But at others it undermines our dreams.
This is that voice that always casts doubt on your inspiration, your actions or even just you.
There are times in our life we really need that inner voice. It is the voice of caution that pops up to keep us safe. But it is also the voice that keeps us small, limited, and unfulfilled.
In the interests of self-care it is at these times that you need to reclaim the control to direct your own life. When you don’t do this your inner voice will keep you restricted with old stories and belief systems that don’t support your personal growth.
The second part of the process is to attend to your needs. A lot of people think this is about pampering but it is much more. While pampering can be a part of self-care it’s not the crux. At its centre self care is about tuning in to your body, emotions, mind and spirit and addressing what it is you need on all these levels.
It can be hard to know how to begin the process of self care. Here are five suggestions.
Guide To Self Care
1. Shut Down Your Inner Mean Voice
I began the process of self-care by dealing with the voice of my ‘Inner Committee’. The very first step was to recognise it when it very first showed up and stop it dead. I used strong language first and then spoke back to it. I reminded it that I was the driver on our life journey; that it was welcome to come along for the ride, but I was in charge.
“When perfectionism is driving us, shame is riding shotgun and fear is that annoying backseat driver.” ~ Brene Brown
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